Repentance doesn’t wait for judgement. Sounds more like something a preacher would spout rather than something we would think about.
But, think about it. Have you ever wondered if someone’s “sorry” is nothing more than a cheap dismissal?
You know what I mean. Someone does you wrong. You confront them with it. They quickly say, “I’m sorry” and it holds just about as much value as when your mom told you to say you were sorry about something you had no feeling toward. You said, “sorry” but it cost you nothing.
Now you wonder when you are told “sorry” if there is any value in it or not?
Let’s look at that a minute.
When we regret something, it’s a decision of the mind. We recognize we stand to lose something we had before. Perhaps the good standing we hold, the trust that has been bestowed upon us, a relationship that is important to us, or the sense of honesty we all want others to hold toward us.
So, we regret the loss, try to lessen it or avoid it altogether, and we say, “Sorry.”
When we definitely embrace the wrong that we have done, either to ourselves or to others, we include the mind (as in REGRET) but we also include the heart.
Remorse is when we internalize the bad effect and realize our personal engagement in it. We own a sense of responsibility for the action taken. Even if we negotiate and minimize our part by blaming others, by pointing out their wrong doing, by insisting they are to share in the blame, we still have our part as well. Continue reading Regret, Remorse, or Repent…What Can I Help You Do?